Chapter 39- The Boheeva

05/11/2015

Missy was being a bully. Saul would call her the boheeva. She was insistent about us paying her money even though she was not the rightful owner of the house. I really did appreciated her for letting us move in, but had I known what a bully and a tyrant she was beforehand I would have never let my kid's near her. First impressions led me to believe that she was a good person. Saul and I did agree to pay her rent, but we did not sign any legal documents stating that and later come to find out that all of us were squatting in that house so we didn't see the point of paying her rent. Instead Saul fixed the hole in the ceiling. Missy was illegally paying the water bill and my husband was able to get the electric bill in his name and I handled the trash bill.

I wasn't sure what was happening between my husband and I, but I sensed it wasn't good for he was staying out a lot while I waited for him in bed. A few nights Saul and Missy would stay up late talking and it really upset me because I would be waiting in bed fuming that he was having an affair. In fact, I was beginning not to even care anymore because someone else was creeping into my heart and consuming my mind. I really wasn't sure how to make any sense of it, I just came to the conclusion that the heart know's what it wants. It still didn't seem right falling in love with my husbands brother, but it is not like Saul really loved me anymore for his actions were telling me so.

On this day Missy got up in my face. She crossed a boundary with me and started acting as if she was my mother claiming that, "This is my house." 

I told her, "Listen, this is our house and I am a grown woman who can do what she pleases. I don't have to take orders from you." 

At this time I had company. My neighbor and her child were in the backyard with me and Missy was standing in between the sliding glass door. Missy turned around grabbing the wooden chair and throws it at me almost hitting the child in the face aside of me. Luckily, I caught the chair in time and set it down. 

I said, "You crazy bitch! I am out of here."

"let's go over to your house." I said to my neighbor.  

Then Missy states, "Oh no you won't " 

She was trying to hold us up against our will as she stood in between the sliding glass doorway.

Missy was a heavy set woman in her forties it really didn't take too much to topple her over and make her lose her balance. 

I said, "Then I will just have to go through you." 

I nudged her over to the side with my shoulder and she backed up into the table and we left the premises. Then I text messaged Saul to let him know what happened. I told Saul about all the times Missy had flipped out on us, and that the situation was escalating. I also informed him of the borderline abuse that I witnessed between her and our kids and that I felt we should put a restraining order against her.  

Saul took her defense and said, "If it were not for her we wouldn't have a place to live." 

I said, "True, but we need to protect ourselves because she is acting crazy lately." 

So when Saul came home I left him with the kid's and went to my friends house to talk it over with them and get a second opinion about the restraining order. Also to avoid another confrontation with Missy and calm my nerves.

B: Missy has got into your head. She has more to lose than us we are safe. Hear me out.

Saul: Nobody gets in my head I cannot leave the kids behind. You need grow up and stop using that shit.

B: We are around the corner for 10 min. Just give me 10 min.

Saul: No don't ask me again.

B: See why do you want to gang up on me and take her side. I wish we could work out our differences and stay a united front.

Saul: No.

B:This bitch has no idea who she is fucking with. Mrs. Solorzano is rowdy now. She is not fucking with my livelihood.

Saul: ok.

B: We have children. She picked up a chair and tried to hit me with it right next to a child and his mother.

Saul: ok we will but i need to find out is your idea.

B: Just want to hear you out. Get your take on the situation.

Saul: What?

B: Come get me.

Saul: You can come i m in bed.

B: Aren't you going to protect me from the boheeva?
Open the door
Plz

Saul: yup

05/12/2015

That should have been my first clue that one abuser will always back up another abuser. I just thought being my husband and making a vow to protect your wife and family must have meant something to him. Apparently I was wrong. 

I decided to push the restraining order. Saul and I dropped the subject and agreed to disagree. We went about our daily life. Today Jr. was having more health issues. I took him to the ENT for a checkup and he had a double ear infection and needed antibiotics.

B: I just dropped off Liam script they said it will take an hour so I am going home to put Jr. For nap.